tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post7458291890412920649..comments2024-03-05T10:52:24.691+00:00Comments on Mark Wadsworth: "Women Still Do A Lot More Housework Than Men, Study Finds"Mark Wadsworthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07733511175178098449noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-24849634778726868662014-10-07T15:10:36.627+01:002014-10-07T15:10:36.627+01:00@S
To be a tad more gallant, it is fair to say a w...@S<br />To be a tad more gallant, it is fair to say a woman can get stuck in commitments ,a career path, property on mortgages and loans, school fees etc which are next to impossible to dismantle when somebody you love comes down suddenly with early onset Alzheimers . You are actually serving to make the point she is trying to make in the Telegraph that women can't have it all : be able to look after loved ones in old age and work really "unsociable" hours in television.DBC Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891849727783879145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-45900116233863688622014-10-07T10:40:31.518+01:002014-10-07T10:40:31.518+01:00DBC
So you are saying that she should have given ...DBC<br /><br /><i>So you are saying that she should have given up her job to look after her mother.</i><br /><br />Not at all. She can do what she wants. I have no problem with people saying that they're putting their parents in a home because they prioritise their kids higher or just not talking about their reasons.<br /><br />It's that she says that she can't do something, when she really means that she won't do something. She won't look after her mother and give up her lifestyle.Tim Almondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13369256383976094670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-76777034058366208152014-10-06T22:04:05.472+01:002014-10-06T22:04:05.472+01:00@S
So you are saying that she should have given up...@S<br />So you are saying that she should have given up her job to look after her mother.I wish I were so confident of my ability to pass judgement on other people's lives. People you don't know .If you were to read her Telegraph interview " For the sake of sanity I had to go" (from her big GMTV job) you will see that she says women "can't have it all";can't have the big mortgage paying jobs and look after people they care about as well. I am challenging Mark's shallow assumption (absent school holidays , family illnesses)that women can combine a lot of roles because keeping house is easy which leads him to fall for the standard homeownerist propaganda: two people working= twice the mortgage<br />whoopee we can put up house prices 100% then when they get hooked on unearned income from homeownership pay less wages.<br />Did anybody see "Workers on the breadline" tonight? Jesus. Doesn't it occur to even the usual p/c playing autistic Hayekian (many millions of whom comprise the new chattering classes) that if the land taxers get house prices down,<br />the employers will duly respond by putting wages down to the same value.DBC Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891849727783879145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-24505637602039545862014-10-06T21:41:10.503+01:002014-10-06T21:41:10.503+01:00Bayard,
"Women try and do everything as well...Bayard,<br /><br />"Women try and do everything as well as possible. (I appreciate that this is a gross generalisation and that there are, of course, exceptions)."<br /><br />The best software testers are women (generally). I've met a few men, but as a rule, women will take software apart and find every little bug. Men will approach it as "yeah, pretty much works".Tim Almondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13369256383976094670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-51521793949238193652014-10-06T21:14:27.065+01:002014-10-06T21:14:27.065+01:00DBC: "I am making a general point about the h...DBC: <i>"I am making a general point about the huge social care problem of the elderly that arises when women work."</i><br /><br />Christ on a crutch, whoever said that this wasn't a burden? What on earth does that have to do with the post? It's completely irrelevant to the post.<br /><br />Bayard: <i>"women do more housework than men because women spend longer doing housework than men."</i><br /><br />Nice one.Mark Wadsworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07733511175178098449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-49649396919303773972014-10-06T20:42:00.290+01:002014-10-06T20:42:00.290+01:00DBC,
although Stigler gives vent to some astonish...DBC,<br /><br /><i>although Stigler gives vent to some astonishingly ungallant sneers implying she was rich enough to look after her mother with Alzheimer's if she had wanted to do</i><br /><br />What are you saying? That she isn't rich enough to do that?<br /><br />Giving up an income is always going to result in sacrifices, that's undeniable, but "can't afford" suggests huge sacrifices - maybe the family can't have a holiday, or a reasonably good car. Is she at that point, or is it having to have a BMW instead of an Aston? Belle-Epoque instead of Cristal?Tim Almondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13369256383976094670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-45088396640842507682014-10-06T20:06:31.763+01:002014-10-06T20:06:31.763+01:00My experience is that women do more housework than...My experience is that women do more housework than men because women spend longer doing housework than men. Men, on the whole tend to try and do everything as fast and efficiently as possible. Women try and do everything as well as possible. (I appreciate that this is a gross generalisation and that there are, of course, exceptions).<br />DBCR, aren't you being somewhat sexist? Why should it be the woman who doesn't work in order to look after the elderly relative/idiot son? OK in your example it's Fiona's mother who has Alzheimer's, but I bet she would still be expected to be the one who gives up time at work if it was her mother-in-law. Better in my mind, if they can afford it, for both husband and wife to contribute to some sort of live-in care. Bayardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15211150959757982948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-58826495893023086022014-10-06T19:14:20.431+01:002014-10-06T19:14:20.431+01:00I am making a general point about the huge social ...I am making a general point about the huge social care problem of the elderly that arises when women work. Also the general problem of school holidays.This was in response to your general point that women's work around the house was not that bad which you have compounded with remarks about the manly code of not moaning.I was not comparing you with Fiona Phillips specifically,<br />although Stigler gives vent to some astonishingly ungallant sneers implying she was rich enough to look after her mother with Alzheimer's if she had wanted to do .Her father developed<br />Alzheimer's as well ,hence her genuine efforts for Alzheimers charities.<br />Fact is the banks and corporations and their subservient political parties are engaged in major social engineering getting women out of the house (when they are in two minds whether they want to, like Fiona Phillips) and you are now piping the Homeownerist line that its all Win/Win if they do go out to work.One thing I would be fairly certain of is that people in Catholic southern Europe wouldn't shove their parents into homes because they couldn't afford not to work and look after them. I have known drug addict sons and completely gaga parents cared for in Spanish homes where they have sweet FA in the way of money.If it is a cultural thing so much the worse for ours.DBC Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891849727783879145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-23761714949103553192014-10-06T18:13:13.731+01:002014-10-06T18:13:13.731+01:00DBC, come off it, please compare like with like.
...DBC, come off it, please compare like with like.<br /><br />If I had to look after disabled relatives then I would probably be reporting that it is absolutely draining and exhausting.<br /><br />But I have no experience in that regard, merely experience in running a normal family household. Which is not too difficult.<br /><br />TS, it seems that there is a manly way of doing things, a large part of which is not moaning :-)Mark Wadsworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07733511175178098449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-46684603441918729182014-10-06T17:36:52.405+01:002014-10-06T17:36:52.405+01:00DBC,
Why do rich people say that sort of thing?
...DBC,<br /><br />Why do rich people say that sort of thing?<br /><br />Fiona Phillips is married to a TV producer. Even if she brought nothing in, they'd still be living well. They own a couple of houses and a pub in an upmarket area of Dorset.Tim Almondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13369256383976094670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-11500078281473378832014-10-06T16:53:32.086+01:002014-10-06T16:53:32.086+01:00In the modern era, most housework has a high elaps...In the modern era, most housework has a high elapsed time, but a low effort time. Washing's got to dry, but you just stick it on a line that takes 10 minutes of effort and a couple of hours waiting.<br /><br />If you get organised, you can get a long task going (like washing) then get dinner in the oven, and while that's going, do a bit of cleaning (what else are you going to do in the 20 minutes of cooking time?). If I'm at home with the kids, that's what I do, then stick the washing on the line and go out and do something nice.Tim Almondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13369256383976094670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141932539860553199.post-32469528080174844332014-10-06T16:51:38.905+01:002014-10-06T16:51:38.905+01:00Wait for the school holidays.
You are not taking i...Wait for the school holidays.<br />You are not taking into account that everything possible is done nowadays to simplify chores so women can go out to work to shoulder the enormous mortgage.<br />Fiona Phillips (whom I don't like generally )wrote movingly at the weekend that she could not spare the time from work to look after her mother with Alzheimer's.( In fact as Andy Burnham said in his recent speech ,all the value of the parents house often does not go to the budding Homeownerist but to creepy care home proprietors.)Family illness and disability needs to be factored in big time. DBC Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891849727783879145noreply@blogger.com